Floundering? Use Talane’s Goal-Setting Strategies to get back on Track

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I recently signed up to receive tips from a rather famous person who said that the number one reason people aren't successful is because they don't complete their goals. This is a rather simplistic bit of advice and not very helpful. After all, we don't set goals with the intention of not doing them. We set goals because we do want to achieve them. So simply telling someone to complete the goals they set is poor advice, in my humble opinion. A much more interesting question would be to take a look at all the things you've said you wanted to do and ask yourself, “Why haven't I completed this goal?”  What has prevented you from reaching this goal? Let's take a look at a popular goal this time of year – lose weight and get in shape. It all starts off great – you sign up for the gym membership and get going on a diet, but come February most people stop going to the gym and their diet has fallen by the wayside. What happened? Well, this case is like most. You failed because... Read More →


Conquer Your Fears in 10 Simple Steps

“Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared.” Eddie Rickenback I'm not a fearful sort of person so it always throws me a bit when someone asks, “How do I overcome my fears?” Being “fearless” is more than developing courage. Here's the quick cure to fear:  Get that fear is your friend. It is there to tell you something and keep you safe from potentially harmful situations. If you are afraid to quit your job because you have a mortgage and a family to support and no savings, well, you should be afraid because to quit would put your family at risk. Eliminate or reduce the fear by keeping your day job and using holiday time to find a new job or start moonlighting in a potential new career or business in the evenings.  Ask yourself how you can reduce or eliminate your fears at their source.  Fear may simply indicate that you have insufficient financial reserves or need more support. Let the fear motivate you to start an aggressive... Read More →


Be busy, not dizzy: Top 10 tips for a productive 2015

DO YOU rush around but never seem to get anything done? Then make 2015 the year you supercharge your productivity – with these 10 top tips. By Christine Fieldhouse, in Express, 28 December, 2014. Read the original article on the Express website. P.S. Get your New Year off to a great start with 30-days of FREE coaching available with every purchase of Coach Yourself to Success, make sure you buy the newly revised and updated edition to take advantage of this great offer.    Read More →


Inspirational Life Coaching in a "Letter to My Nephews"

I read Jonathan's letter below and found it an inspiring reminder of what is truly important in life. You can learn a lot from books, but many things can only be learned the hard way by living, suffering and enjoying life. A year and a half ago, I was in a plane with very bad turbulence, and I worried that if the plane went down, many of the lessons I’ve learned in life would end up at the bottom of the ocean. I wrote a letter to my nephews for them to read when they were older. I hope they’ll find it useful. —————– Dear nephews, I’m writing this on a plane. The reason I started writing this was that I feared the plane might go down, and if it went down, all the lessons I’ve learned in life would disappear with me. By writing this, I hope to pass on the few lessons I’ve learned. The most important lesson is that the vast majority of things you worry about will not bother you the next day. A year later you will not even be able to remember them if you try. When... Read More →


Bring in the New!

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I thought you might be amenable to this rather enjoyable and satisfying 'end of year ritual' to check out the old year and bring in the new; from both a personal and professional perspective. The simple instructions: Sit down with a glass of sherry and a mince pie (if you live in England) or a cup of hot chocolate if you live in the US and make a note of your thoughts around the following four points. You may wish to do this in partnership with a significant other or even with the kids. What have you accomplished in the past year, personally and professionally? List both the big and the small stuff – it’s common to get over 20 items. Include things such as taking a trip or making a new friend as well as your business achievements. What do you wish to accomplish personally and professionally in this New Year?  Targets, goals and dreams--think big! A wish list - not a must do. Bonus questions: What difficulties did you overcome to realize those accomplishments? List out the... Read More →


Complete Your Year Powerfully

There is often a lot going on at the end of the year, so don’t worry if you don’t have time to do this until after the holidays. On the other hand, the New Year is a perfect time for fresh starts . They are all about completing your year. Pay off personal debts and obligations. One of my friends had a very strong family tradition of paying off all debts before the New Year. They worked hard to make sure they had no personal debts outstanding and could begin the year with a clean slate. I like this idea. If you have any personal debts or owe money to people, pay it off, if at all possible. (I’m not talking about your car or house.) It may even make sense to take out a small loan to pay back friends or family who have lent you money. At the very least, come up with a payment plan you can afford and tell them how much you’ll now be paying them back each month. The point is to make sure you are in financial integrity and have written agreements for paying any monies owed. Complete... Read More →


The 9-Step Formula for Forgiveness

This simple formula works to resolve even the hardest, most grievous wrongs, the bitterest of resentments and the longest and most closely held grudges. (Tip: This works best if done in a neutral tone of voice without anger, judgement or righteousness. It helps if you take the time ahead of time to write down the facts of the situation so that you don’t get muddled up in the emotions. It is most effective if done in person, but don’t wait because it can be done over the phone, or even by letter.) Is this a good time to talk? If you are calling on the phone always ask if it is a good time to talk. If not, ask when would be a good time and make an appointment. If you are meeting in person, make sure that you will not be interrupted and that it is a good time. Prepare them. Before you start blurting stuff out, it helps to prepare the person for what you have to say. Just tell them whatever you are feeling right now. For example, “I feel awkward in bringing this up. I don’t know... Read More →


Now is the Time for Forgiveness

The cost of not forgiving someone is bigger than most of us realize. We go merrily around with our busy lives thinking that life is easier and simpler if we just forget about the past and focus on the present or our goals for the future. In some cases this may be true, but in most cases it is denial. Fortunately, the past has an uncanny way of rearing its ugly head and demanding to be dealt with. And the holiday season is when those heads start popping up all over the place, right across from you, over the turkey and mashed potatoes, but any time of the year is the perfect time to forgive the ones we love. One way or another, intentionally or not, we end up hurting the people we love the most. It is a fact of life. We just can’t seem to rub elbows year after year without causing a little friction, in spite of our best intentions. No family, no love relationship can endure without forgiveness. The happiest families and best relationships are the ones who admit their mistakes, apologize,... Read More →


Talane's Top 10 Tips for a Happier (and easier!) Holiday Season

Use the Joy Filter for decision-making. If someone invites you to something ask yourself, "Will this add joy to my life?" If not, decline. You don’t have to go to every single holiday party you are invited to. Stop sending holiday cards unless you love to do it. It is a pleasure to receive a personal card, but why bother sending a rubber-stamped, printed signature card? Just pick ten people who are special to you and send them a hand-written card. Do only what you find joyful and you are guaranteed a terrific holiday season. Forgive and make amends. If someone has done something that hurt you, now is the time to call and forgive them. If you have done anything hurtful or damaging to another, make amends even if it wasn’t intentional. Call or write the people you may have offended, apologize and ask them how you can make it up to them. If you wore your friend’s favorite sweater and then spilled catsup on it, it isn’t enough to say "I’m terribly sorry." Buy a new sweater... Read More →


Declutter With the Mindset of a Minimalist

This is a great checklist for both decluttering and time management. If you find that Marie Kondo’s technique isn’t working for you, try this. See how many of these 12 decluttering tips you can check off as systems you currently use, or add them to your routine to free up time and enhance productivity at home and in the office. 1) I’m a quick decision maker: I don’t dither and am able to quickly identify what to keep, give away and throw. 2) I have good questions and criteria to help me decide: Useful questions: Is this enhancing my life or taking up space? How many of these do I really need, could I manage just as well with less? What’s the worst thing that could happen if I let this go? Could I live with that? When is the last time I used/ wore this? Why is this? (If it’s been longer than a year it usually goes) Is this actually useful in my life, or could someone else have more use for it? With uncompleted projects / hobbies I ask:  How committed am I to finishing... Read More →



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